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Okay... I am a competitive person

For years, if someone asked (and even if they didn't), I'd say, quite proudly, "I am not a competitive person."  But, as I look at this awesome crystal trophy and think about all the hours of practice and planning I put into the event I just participated in, I think it's time to face the facts.  

My name is Day Anna Leary and I am a competitive person.

It's been about five minutes since I admitted that to myself and I don't think I'm too comfortable with the idea.  Growing up in Southwest Texas, I think it was probably better for a boy to call himself competitive than a girl, or at least somewhere along the way I grabbed a hold of that idea.  If you were a competitive girl you joined the choir with an incredible voice... or you went to softball practice every day.  You joined beauty contests thinking you'd probably win.  I never did any of those things.  

I ran for offices of any clubs I joined because other people saw something in me, not because I was looking for the spotlight.  I signed up for a beauty contest because it looked fun!  I didn't have a magical voice that guaranteed me a medal -- or even a chance at one.  I didn't even like softball.  The mere idea of a ball being slung at a spot fairly near my face seemed preposterous to me.  

And then came a seminar called Women as Leaders.  I had to compete with all of the other collegiate women leaders in Texas to get one of two spots to come to Washington for a two week celebration of female power.  And I won.  I guess that's when the seed got planted, when I first encountered the idea that achieving at the expense of someone else NOT was... um... a rush!

Then, stuff stuff stuff... fit that secret thrill back into the box from which it snuck and slide it under the bed!  

And now there's Toastmasters with it's twice monthly mini-competitions and twice yearly big ones.  And for the past two big contest seasons I have competed and loved it.  At first I felt embarrassed to enjoy being better than other people.  I felt silly holding a trophy as though I somehow deserved it more than someone else.

But, today as I admit this tiny part of who I am... as I embrace the fact that I am a competitive person... I understand that the reason I love competing isn't the medal or the crystal trophy... it's having a measurable reason to work as hard as I possibly can to be the best that I can possibly be and find out at the end how I stacked up.  And, as I stood in the front of the room of Toastmasters accepting this trophy I realized that that's the same reason most of us were competing and that win or lose we all got the reward we came for... a test of ability.


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  1. LindaMay 15, 2010 at 10:50 PM

    Day, I love reading your blog! I just got home from Specht's--had a delicious salmon with Pam and Kate. And the first thing I did when I got home was go to your blog. It makes me happy. It brings tears. It is SO YOU! You are the number one trophy daughter in the world!

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  2. KirstenMay 18, 2010 at 2:25 PM

    Why did I feel there was a section about me? I am competitive and proud of it. As we grow we get competitive in different ways, sometimes more subtly. I am glad you have found the joy in competition, as well as in co-operation.

    I love your blog and am so happy to have found the link.

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